Chapters from The Marriage First Aid Kit
We encourage you to read the following chapters from Dr. Kaye's book to learn why the key to maintaining an intimate relationship is really emotional management and not just better communication.
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Contents
Introduction
A few words about why and how this books was written.
Chapter 1 - The Great No-No
This chapter illustrates how our own fear of shame is the greatest obstacle we have to face if we want to improve an intimate relationship.
Chapter 2 - The Structure of Vital Relationships
Love based relationships do not have as much stability or resilience as do integrity based relationships. Ths chapter describes the strong foundation of a relationship that can have a marriage stand the test of time.
Chapter 3 - Balance and Paradox
A vital relationship needs to be dynamic and not static. Opposing needs and emotional states must be kept balanced over time if a marriage is to thrive. This chapter unravels the paradox.
Chapter 4 - Nurturing Healthy Attachment
Relationships must be fed. It's not enough to just feel. This chapter explains the fundamentals about how attachment needs can be effectively met in a marriage..
Chapter 5 - Love's Hidden Assassin
A very common relationship killer operates far below our awareness. It leads to the numbing loss of attraction and affection in many couples. .
Chapter 6 - The Other Usual Suspects
This chapter outlines the other most common relationship killers of which many couples are often aware..
Chapter 7 - Freeing and Strengthening Your Hedonic Self
If you're starting to numb out and lose attraction, this chapter suggests what you do to start resuscitating the part of yourself that's going dormant in your marriage.
Chapter 8 - Defending Autonomy
This chapter gives you tools to ward off covert inhibition that might otherwise strangle your affection and kill your marriage..
Chapter 9 - Managing Conflict
This chapter describes various forms of constructive and destructive conflict. Tools for appropriate management are provided.
Chapter 10 - Sharing Power and Authority
This chapter contains helpful tools for negotiating chores, structuring finances, and dealing with in-laws.
Chapter 11 - Great Sex
This chapter describes elements that foster great sex as well as some guidelines on how couples can get there..
Chapter 12 - Mapping Your Strategy
This chapter discusses how to strategize changing a marriage.
Chapter 13 - Conclusion
Addendum: Message to a Daughter
Glossary
Here are some chapters from Dr. Kaye's next book "When Love and Anger Got Married: Growing Spirituality Beyond Religious Belief."
Chapter 1 - Questions
Chapter 2 - Our Quantum Selves
Chapter 3 - Choosing Colors
Chapter 4 - Burning It In
